Boredom Can Kill You

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I’ve always had this theory in mind that people who talk behind people’s backs destructively are unhappy, miserable, jealous, insecure people. They wanted to do things which they can’t and it frustrates them, hence, they resort to backbiting. Also, they are cowards as they aren’t brave enough to face their insecurities and confront their real enemies – who are themselves.

Or could it be just plain boredom? Being not busy; having lots of idle time on hand can make a person nosy. I’d rather mind my own business or find something productive when killing time. It’s better than sinning. God bless all miserable people. Glad am not one of them. 🙂

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For Cherina Pt3

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I have an idea, maybe one or two.
Better grab my pen and diary in blue.
Breathe, focus, don’t pout;
So i can start weaving words i wanna talk about.

Put ur feet on the reader’s shoes;
Will u be happy? Or just be confused?
Aim for simplicity and creativity;
Notwithstanding objectivity and clarity.

The tone must be set from the very start.
Be neutral and argue all important facts.
End with a good drama; conclusions set out.
I reckon that’s the way of writing smart.

A Year in Australia

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A Year in Australia

24.09.2014 Thank U Adelaide for 1yr of happiness and challenges. Thanks to FedUni and Australian professors for being my pillar of knowledge, to all new friends I’ve made from different nationalities who are my sanity, for the employers who introduced us to the Aussie work ethos, and to families for being source of inspiration. Seen the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge William and Kate, Lord Mayor of City of Adelaide Stephen Yarnwood, Premier of South Australia Jay Weatherill, and the legendary football player Kane Cornes. T’was indeed a worthwhile unforgettable year. And happy anniv also to my husband! Thru thick & thin, we will fight together! Thank u Lord for all good and bad things.
#OnlyPositiveThoughtsAllowed

For Cherina pt2

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School is cool as can be
once you learn the abc.
Keep your eye on the goal,
study well that is your role.

Homework, books, paper and pen
Are best friends in life until the end.
Because school doesn’t stop after you graduate;
Life itself is a continuous learning process.

Be friendly and wise,
Everything that’s nice
Be cautious and give attention
So u can avoid detention

happy thoughts will always be
Source of creativity at work, u’ll see
with this i end my little poem
School is fun just enjoy every moment

For Cherina

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School is crazy
But if we’re going to take it seriously
Our life will be easy
And not dizzy

Remember the learnings
Don’t forget the fun
Each day is a new beginning
The sad ones remind us we’re human.

Friends and teachers alike
Play a great part in our lives
Without them, school is gloomy
Surely, education won’t be easy

So now focus on ur education
A pathway to success, a bridge for a better nation
If we all become civilized and educated citizens,
Surely, Philippines will be a better place to live in

What Makes a Real Friend?

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I can imagine people staying in marriage despite difficulties will prolly say they do because they have to. Responsibilities. Commitment. Children. It’s different with friendships though. We are not obliged, we are not committed. We can leave anytime we feel like leaving.

Some say blood is thicker than water. Yet there are also friends who stick like brothers and who are willing to lay down life for you. Generally, a funny and convivial person will pass the average friend test. However, for me to consider a friend a “real friend” I must be able to feel the following :

1. Sense of Contentment – Even if it’s just the two of us talking for a whole day, my day generally feels complete.

2. Sense of Privacy & Respect – He or she should not cross the borderline. Friends should not be overfamiliar with each other. Just because you seem to know almost everything about me doesn’t give you the right to jump and make decisions on my behalf.

3. Always Objective – If I confide to a friend, I like it when he or she doesn’t always just take my side but thinks out of the box and looks at all aspects. I prefer it if I am being opposed to and a different point of view is being presented to me. It un-clouds my mind and helps me see things clearly.

4. Very Simple and Easy to Deal With – Walang arte, walang kiyeme, walang madaming eksplanasyon. I may not see them for a long time and when I do I am not obliged to explain why. They understand that I am leading my own life and have a family to take care of. They are not very clingy, very needy of my attention. And when we meet again, it just feels so easy to fill in each other where we left off. Seems like only yesterday and we’re once again updated. 🙂

5. Respects Your Time -When you lend your time to a friend and give advice, you give a piece of yourself. Simply because the time you gave cannot be returned nor reversed. It simply passed by but it just feel so worthwhile because you know that you just spent your quality time with a quality person. So I really appreciate it when friends come to me for help because they really needed one. Some just come to me for the sake of making papansin (to be noticed and be praised) and at the end of the day my opinion really doesn’t matter to them. So I feel like my time has just been wasted really, especially me who believes that time is very valuable and should be spent wisely.

6. Very Loyal – No matter what I do and especially when I’m blinded, they always have my back.

7. Trustworthy – True friends don’t share my secrets with others because they know that they hold a valuable piece of me that I have entrusted to them. And they know that trust, once broken, is not easy to regain. They also know that trust is not given but earned and the fact that they have earned it from me means that they have gained my confidence. So, prove you’re worthy of that “trust and faith” in all ways possible.

8. Doesn’t blame, doesn’t remind you of your past mistakes – Who wants to hear a song played 200 times a day? Even if a friend secretly blames me for my mistakes, it helps when they don’t speak it out loud because he or she knows naman that I know it already na ei. But when they do speak of it, it helps to always have something positive to speak as well. Discuss the solutions, not just the problems. And how can I move forward with my life if my past mistakes will be mentioned over and over again? Do I really have to be reminded of that every single minute of my life?

9. Doesn’t make sumbat – “I have introduced you to all my friends! I have given you these and that! ” And so? Did I ask you to do all of that? This is not sincerity in the very first place because if they were genuine, they would have forgotten all the help extended the minute they’re done with it. Simply because that’s stated in the Bible. Some people help just so they can brag about it. To tell everyone that this people owe them some money or something and they would have been nothing if not for their help.

10. Loves you as a “family” – I strongly feel that a real friend treats me just how they would treat a family member whom they love and cherish a lot.

11. Growth – They share their knowledge with me, I do the same, and we grow together. 🙂

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10 Things that Made Me Happy Today :)

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Today was a very stressful day – preparing revisions for final exams and all the reading that is yet to be done. Each day is unique from the ones that have gone by so I just have to try to always be happy each day to make my everyday worthwhile. Today, these things made me happy :

1. Talking to God first thing after waking up. Reading few verses from the Bible each day gives me enormous strength to carry on with the day’s tasks as I know that I am not doing these tasks alone but the two of us (God & I).

2. Skyping with my two angels always strikes inspiration.

3. Food. Eating boosts me especially if it is my favorite food. I’ve had one of my favorites (wintermelon tea) today so I am extra happy.

4. Music. Oh, I cannot live without it. I have my daily playlist. I hum to myself during travel from home to school, it makes me happy to be able to express my feelings through the lyrics of the songs.

5. Diary. My day isn’t complete without writing in my organizer/diary. If I forgot to bring it, I feel a li’l incomplete and sad.

6. Reading. My favorite past time. A good novel makes my day extra flourishing. Now, it’s Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. Heard it’s going to be a movie soon.

7. Clothes. I love to dress up invariably. So, even if I can’t afford to buy them all I still take a photo of the beautiful clothes whenever I pass by them. Somehow, at least the photo cheers me up.

8. Pictures. Oh how I enjoy taking photos of almost anything that catches my attention – my friends, my food, the chaos in the city, a beautiful dress/boots on a mannequin, just about anything.

9. Cooking. I didn’t realise it before but nowadays I make my study breaks my cooking time. It makes me happy being still productive during my breaktime and relieves some of my stress.

10. My favorite part of the day was retiring at night. I have this special routine – massage my and Jojo’s face and feet; massage my husband’s back; and throwing sarcastic jokes on each other. Before I knew it, he’s already snoring holding my hands or hugging me whilst I am still busy reading my novel.

 

 

The Dollar Girl

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Coming from a third-world home country to a first-world country is a bit of a challenge, especially if it’s your first time migration. I have highlighted below some of the favorable/unfavorable things which I have realised over my eight-month stay in Australia.

Philippines :
1. More fun – It is definitely more fun in the Philippines. When I said “fun”, I meant waking up early in the morning to the sound of cheerful neighbor’s voices already up either singing, playing, drinking, gossiping (ha ha), and fighting (rarely). Philippines is a very beautiful country and a lot of provinces/islands are yet to be developed into becoming eco-tourism spots. I haven’t been to all of them yet I have seen enough to make me conclude that there are more beautiful beaches and tourist spots/activities (e.g. the exciting ziplines, banana boat riding, hot air balloons) here.
2. More passionate people – My first impression of the neighborhood in Australia is good because I saw plenty of gorgeous houses. Then, I realised that it is just common for them to have such kind of a inhabitable houses. However, in general, the neighborhood is like a ghost town. It is so quiet everywhere. People are where they should be – work, school, trains, buses, parks, etc. except home. At the end of whatever day’s activities they had, they will eventually go home, eat, and sleep. There is a very big possibility that you don’t even know the names of your neighbors. In the Philippines, everybody knows you especially in the provinces where it is less crowded. If you wake up hungry in the wee hours of the dawn, be not afraid. There are lots of tapsilogans and other restaurants still up 24hrs a day. Public transport is still available as well.

3. Rigid training – I have worked for Shell and they provide rigid learning & development trainings (Greenbelt & Lean Sigma trainings) to their employees (at no cost to employee at all) all throughout each year. I am working part-time in one of the most prestigious employers in Australia as well and they did not provide formal training. Training here is informal. They will provide you an orientation consisting of a brief overview of the company and its procedures; a conduct of where and how to log-in and log-out, get your uniform, and ID but no formal orientation on the actual tasks per se. I did a lot of volunteering also and noticed that they are all the same. They will show you how to do a job and after a few minutes will expect you to be independent already and be able to find out your own way. In Shell-Philippines, every training is documented and signed; and submitted to HR or relevant managers. Let’s see once I get a white-collar job here if things will be a bit different

4. Easy to get lost – If you get lost in the Philippines, it’d be very rare to use GPS. First option is to ask someone out on the street for more than likely you will find someone “na mapagtatanungan” (someone you can ask). In Australia, GPS has become my second best friend. 🙂 Every trip has to be carefully planned ahead of time.I once had an interview in a very very far place, got lost, and couldn’t knock on the houses for fear of trespassing. Luckily, help came as always at the time of need. One neighbor pulled out of his driveway, and I approached him kindly as he emerged from his car. In fairness, I have always been extended a great amount of time and help by Australians. Most of the time, they are happy to help. 🙂

Australia :

1. Less warm people, sometimes so formal – As I have described earlier, the place seems like a ghost town. It will never occur to you that a party might be going on inside the house. They do house parties all the time, bbq parties are their favorite. Sometimes, it feels so formal to joke around them. I guess, that’s how you are when you are still unfamiliar with their culture, likes, and dislikes. But once you get to know them, it’s not hard to love them.

2. More professional – I have received letters from employers stating that I have not been shortlisted as candidate to their company vacant position. I have never experienced that in my whole career life in the Philippines. It shows that Australians are more professional.

3. A lot are educated – In relation to #2, it could have been because a lot are more educated in a first-world country that they are more professional. There is less poverty in Australia and the government is exerting all effort to help each Australian achieve optimum literacy. Trainings are provided to jobless people and loans extended to students which they can pay after they graduate and have found a job. However, the education system cannot be discounted in the Philippines as well. There’s a lot of good public, semi-private, and private educational institutions as well in the Philippines. The government only have to push each child to be educated and finish their chosen degrees. I strongly believe that it is one way of getting out of poverty. The more educated the Filipinos become, the more they can participate intelligently in political matters and arrive at informed decisions that can change the society and eventually their and their grandchildren’s lives. To add up, you’ll see people in all ages reading novels everywhere.

4. Less crime – There is a smaller crime rate in Australia. In the Philippines, you are guilty until proven innocent whilst here in Australia you are innocent until proven that you are guilty. If they have mistakenly imprisoned an innocent person, they will pay the latter an amount deemed equivalent to the damages made to the innocent victim plus more!

5. Very disciplined people – You can see this even in simple things like getting the rubbish ready the night before the scheduled waste collection, people crossing at pedestrian lanes, in-congested traffic, and disciplined motorists.

6. Effective government system – Australia is progressive because the leaders are effective and less corrupt.

7. Realisation of taxes – It is not hard to compute in your head where do your hard-earned money go when taxes are being deducted from your payroll. You can easily see the cost to maintain such beautiful roads and high-end services almost commensurate with your contributions.

8. Equal opportunity – Australia gives equal opportunity to all. It is up to the people who will take advantage of those opportunity presented in front of them. So long as one is working hard and wisely, one can achieve a comfortable living unlike in the Philippines where most of the time you will feel that all your bones are aching from hard work and you still cannot comprehend why your lifestyle is always at the same level. So the more leverage you have in Australia, the higher are your chances of success because they are fair.

9. Anti-racial discrimination – Discrimination is everywhere but at least in Australia it is part of their law – that anyone who discriminates will be apprehended!

To conclude, there are big differences of living in a 1st-world country from a 3rd-world one. They will not be called “first-world or first-class” in the very first place for nothing. They are rated in that manner because of the country’s GDP, contribution to worldwide economy, etc. There’s more fun in the Philippines, but there’s more money here in Australia. Though it is sad to be away from the people and place I have loved so dearly in life, a friend once mentioned to me that my comfort zone should not be my home country. My comfort zone should be God. So long as He is my comfort zone, I will be fine any country I go to. And she’s correct. It is easier for me to live here now. I am well adjusted, have made new good friends, and have come to accept their culture as well. But one thing is for sure, whichever country it is and whatever their culture and customs might be, what all people want is just a bit of respect. There will always be gossipers, people who will back fight you – may it be Australian or a Filipino; however, the same rule in life applies. Just go placidly amidst the noise and haste of life. Try to be at peace with everyone and your own soul. And the only way to do this is just to be respectful at all times of everyone regardless of his nationality and status in life.

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The Songs of my Life

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“Who’d have thought this is how the pieces fit. You and I shouldn’t even try making sense of it. I forgot how we ever came this far…Love moves in mysterious ways.” I can relate so much to this song. After the bitter falling out of relationship and thereafter becoming a single mother, I thought my life was at a total impasse. I met my one true love but was treated with reproach by his kin at first, making all attempts to forestall my happy ever after. Yet, no matter how horrific the situation looked to me, we did succeed in making our love a long and lasting love. Bewildering but true! The magnanimity of true love will overcome all dubiousness.

I have always loved life and all that surrounds it. I guess that contributed gaiety to my personality despite the tantamount obstacles I have encountered during my entire life. However, there were rare moments when I feel daunted and it succumbs me. Then, I do self-retrospection, thinking if I did all the right thing. It seems that I did during that time. It looks like I’ve been not only to a hundreds of places but also through a tremendous number of experiences, yet, I still do not fully comprehend myself. Hence, the song “Never Been To Me” has always been one of my favorites.

I have always been an old-fashioned “only” when it comes to songs. Ha ha. Thus, all the songs I like are mostly from an old genre. There is one modern song, though, that I reckon I can relate to as well. “Just Give Me a Reason” reminds me of the many nuisance of marriage. Those times were synonymous to going crazy. One day I was incorrigible, then, on the next I would change decision erratically. Despite the grueling pro’s & con’s battle-of-the-mind, at the end of the day I would still believe in my principles and will not lose my faith in God and to this man who He had entrusted me to be with. So, that is my little bit of reason why I am still here, not sulking, but ambling through the joys and struggles of my marriage.

These two songs will always be in my playlist when I do videoke – “My Girl, My Woman, My Friend” and “I’d Still Say Yes”. I dedicate them to my husband who will always be my friend and enemy; and who despite my many evil plans of leaving behind I would always resort to coming back.

Distractions

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Of all the things I hold in high regards, rules are not one of them. I have my own set of principles dictated not by norms but by virtue of my faith in God, my values, and my instincts. I will not place my children’s fate in the hands of guru wannabees but on these same set of principles I hold dearly in life. Why go to the middleman when I can go directly to the Supplier?